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Week Ending January 26, 2012 .  .  .  TORONTO — Girlfriend Talk: Men Spurned by The Women They Love [Definition: Spurned – to reject someone or their advances scornfully] — Many men and women have rejected the advances of someone that loves them. Sometimes the rejection is accepted and each person moves on to others. While there are those whose rejection is taken with a dose of revenge – “I will get you for this scorn”. The rejected suitor then look for every opportunity to wreck havoc on the other person’s life. [Caution: List of things that may be carried out by this person will not be named.] Often times the woman does not realize that it is one of her spurned suitor(s) causing all these difficulties in her life. She is frustrated, but not sure who to vent her frustration on. She is continually trying to stay on the “wheel”, like a Gerbil. Every time she stops moving, she starts loosing her grip on the wheel, and she has to keep moving to stay on top. In short, her life has become a train wreck and she is powerless. Some women begin talking about bad luck, obeah, karma, etc. They are “pulling their hair out” trying to figure out why their lives are a mess. The rejected suitor(s) is enjoying her discomfort. If he stuck around, he may even volunteer to give her a helping hand – friends but not lovers. All the while he is in control of the situation and quietly laughing at her. These selfish, cruel men, if analyzed by a psychiatrist would determine that they have “mental issues”. Maybe the woman is not sure about the “hairline tear” in the mental makeup of this individual. She knows something is not right, that is why she called it off. On the other hand, maybe she never started the relationship. She was never interested. Now, let’s suppose that this man was callous, pompous, rich, powerful and arrogant who thinks he can get anything he wants, except the woman he thinks he loves, that does not love him. She has a problem! Money does not make a man – a woman with this man would be just a trophy lover. Someone he keeps as a lover with his wife. Some of these men treat women like “indentured slaves”. Demanding of their precious time. No real status, because he is not leaving his wife for her. He loves money too much, and the divorce settlement would cost him half his assets. However, if he is all the above description and single - he maybe a “player”. So women, before you get involved with any man, check him out. Unless, of course, he is playing second fiddle and you are in it for the money – a sugar daddy. Then you would receive expensive clothes, unlimited vacations, drive expensive cars, unlimited cash with no bank accounts of your own? That is a game changer. [P.S. Sugar mama?!!]. . . . . Until next week, Peace! [Home] [Next]